How To Get Her Number SUCCESSFULLY + Infield Examples

(speaking foreign language),
This is Max from Real Social Dynamics
and we're gonna share a little bit
of fundamental contitude because even though I've been
traveling the world for three years now or somethin',
teaching dating advice, givin' seminars
to tens of thousands of people, and all that's very cool,
there's still a lot of people who are asking
for the fundamentals.
In this one we're talkin' about how to get a girl's number,
how to ask for a girl's number.
So, (snaps), let's start right away.
(people chattering) (loud band music)
What are you doing tomorrow by the way?
- Chilling.
- Hang out with me?
Let's hang out tomorrow, I have a free day tomorrow.
- But I'm staying at home.
- What's your number?
- No, I'm sorry, I have a boyfriend.
- That's fine, tell him I'm gay.
- Okay, I will tell him this.
- Plus four, eight, right?
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and let's crack right into it.
Number one: you have to have a solid interaction.
Many guys confuse getting a girl's number
with like getting the girl.
It's like almost like their goal is to,
"Hey what's up," blah, blah, blah, "let's exchange numbers,"
and then get the fuck out of there, right?
Like running away from the explosion.
But you're only getting the girl's number
because you actually want to get to know the girl.
So, the longer the interaction that you're having,
be it in the nightclub,
or be it during daytime on the street,
the more likely you guys will be
to exchange numbers successfully,
and the more likely she also will be to reply to your texts.
So, be aware that a solid interaction
always solidifies the number.
Now, sometimes though, you don't always have time,
sometimes you need to have a short interaction,
that's okay as well,
because the next steps will help you as well.
Important: 99% of the guys
ask for the girl's number.
Now, while it's the polite thing to do,
of course, you ask for permission, that's fine,
but it is still difficult for the girl to say yes,
you're basically serving her a no on a silver platter,
like here's like, "Can I have your number, yes or no?"
Can I have your number?
- [Girl] Oh no, I don't live here.
- [Max] Oh, me neither!
- [Girl] (chuckles) And I have a boyfriend.
- [Max] Oh, too bad.
Well, I wish you a good day then.
- Thank you, you, too. - Bye, bye.
The girl will always be more inclined to say no,
but instead of asking, you could do somethin' like,
"Let's exchange numbers,"
because now you're not even giving her the choice to say no,
you're like, "Let's exchange numbers."
And importantly as well,
if you add a qualifier, that's even better.
So instead of saying, "Hey, can I have your number?"
You could say something like, "You know what, Lisa?"
We're always taking Lisa examples here,
"You know what random girl's name?
"You're pretty interesting so far, let's exchange numbers.
"You're cool, you're funny, let's exchange numbers."
Now, why is that so important?
Let's look at the qualifier,
and this is something very interesting,
because girls love having the feeling
that they worked on the guy.
They don't want a guy to just come over and be like,
"Yeah, you're hot,
"you already convinced me you're good enough,
"can I have your number?"
Girls wanna have the feeling of like,
"Okay, this guy has standards.
"This guy needs a girl to work on him
"before he decides that he wants to have her number."
So again, if you have a solid interaction,
and she said somethin' interesting,
she cracked a funny joke,
and it's almost like on a high point,
that's where you're like, "Actually you know,
"you know what, you're pretty cool, let's exchange numbers."
This way the girl's like,
"Cool, I worked on it, I deserved it."
And even though she might not
even be that interested in you she's like,
"Oh, I deserved it, okay let's exchange numbers."
And then again you say, "Let's exchange numbers,"
that implies something mutual, it's not you like,
"Please, can I have your number,
"please descend down from your thrown,
"and please give me your number."
No, it's like, "You're cool, let us exchange numbers."
Another thing that I do here is, let me grab my phone,
I don't wait, I don't wait.
This is something that many guys do wrong,
they're like, "Okay, let's exchange numbers."
I get that, and they're like, "Let's exchange numbers."
Waiting for the girl's reply and they're like,
"Here's the phone."
No be like, (snaps) "You know what, you're cool,
"let's exchange numbers," I don't even wait for the reply.
You must be here with some boy,
I gotta go outside and find him.
You're interesting, you're funny.
- Thank you. - Let's exchange numbers.
- Sure. - Do you remember my name?
- Max, yeah. - Okay, good.
- It's 4-4. - 4-4.
I'll text you somethin' funny,
if I find somethin' funny.
And actually, one tip that I got from one of my friends is
when you're not waiting, when you're just like,
"Yeah, you're cool, let's exchange numbers,"
point the phone towards the solar plexus, which is here,
that apparently initiates the grab reflex
within the humanoid mammals. (laughs)
The person will be more inclined to just take your phone
and type in (bangs phone) the key number.
Sometimes though, you see a certain hesitation,
especially if you couldn't have a solid interaction
because the girl was busy, or you were gonna be busy,
and the girl has this like slight hesitation,
and you see her like, "Let's exchange numbers,"
and she's like, "Uh, hmm, uh."
That's okay, obviously she has a right to do so,
maybe you're weird, you don't even know it, ya know?
What you do here is you throw in
a so-called statement of empathy.
The statement of empathy basically shows the girl like,
"Listen, I know this is awkward,
"I know this is a little fast."
So, what you can do is you can give
an honest statement of empathy like,
"Listen, I know this is kind of weird,
"I know I just met you like 30 seconds ago,
"but I thought I might give it a chance,"
that's more on the nicer side.
You can be on the more humorous side by saying things like,
"Okay, don't worry I only stalk you on Tuesdays,
that's the only day I'm not busy."
You can say things like,
"Okay, here's how we're gonna do it,
"I understand that this is kinda weird,
"I'm gonna send you one funny text.
"And if you then say, 'Fuck this guy,'
"I understand that, just don't reply back."
But if you say, "Actually, he's kinda cool
"because he has a weird haircut, and he's kinda funny,
"and at least he's tryin',"
then you can text something funny back, right?
Again, that way it takes the pressure off the girl.
The next thing that I wanna say here is
it kinda leads into this whole hesitation thing,
you can do somethin' as some sort of precaution.
So upon saying, "You know what, you're cool,
"let's exchange numbers," and you give her the phone,
you take it away from her, and you're like,
"What's my name?"
Do you have a Bulgarian number by the way?
- Yes. - Cool, what is it?
(girl laughing)
What's my name?
Okay, there ya go.
Well, I'd exchange numbers,
but only if you promise not to stalk me.
- All right. - Cool.
What's my name?
- I don't remember, oh my God!
- 3-5-8, right? - Yeah, 3-3.
- Now, many times she has forgotten her name,
your name, not her name,
I hope she hasn't forgotten her name.
Many times she actually has forgotten and I'm like,
"Oh gee, I gotta think twice now," or "Good bye," right?
You could do somethin' like a funny take away
like walk two steps away, and then go back,
"Nah, I can't do that, all right, let's exchange numbers."
Many times you will have forgotten her name as well,
that shit happens, that's totally fine.
Many times it's actually funny like,
"Oh shit, I forgot your name as well,
"ha, ha, let's do it again.
"Hi anyways, nice to meet you, my name is Max."
So, that way you can kinda like make her work for it again,
just a little bit, because again,
it makes the interaction way more interesting
and girls love having that feeling of like,
"Okay, I've worked on this guy, I had to deserve it."
Now last but not least, when you are exchanging numbers,
make it somethin' like an activity
that you are doing together.
Instead of just be like oh, doh, doh, doh,
exchange numbers like,
what I like to do is I stand next to her and I'm like,
"Okay, like let's exchange numbers,
"it's this number, okay cool."
And what I do then is I text her my name right away,
or I have her text her name to me,
anything that's like a mutual activity,
you exchange numbers and you're like,
"Okay, I'll text you my name so you know how to spell it,"
M-A-X, ha, ha.
"Actually, let me send you a smiley face,
"which one is your favorite one?"
And then go through the smileys and then
she chooses like the heart smiley, and then you know,
"No, you know what?
"Yours is the poop emoji," and you send her the poop emoji.
- 73.
Yeah.
Yeah.
- I'll text you my name.
- Yeah, do that. - Plus a smiley face.
- Yeah, oh wow, do I get a smiley face?
- Yes, you do, wait! - Oh no, let's see it!
- She's dissing me, I like it!
Check it out, um, oh you got the cow.
- Wow!
- Because later on, when she receives another text from you,
or when she's at home and she's looking through the texts,
she already has a text back and forth, your name, her name,
the funny poop emoji, she will remember,
"Oh yeah, this guy was actually fun!"
And her emotions will be back at that initial interaction,
so when you hit her up with a text again,
her emotions might be down, ya know?
She might be tired, she might be stressed,
but then reads the text conversation that you already had,
and then she's like,
"All right, actually I remember this guy was fun."
Now, I already said, last but least, but last,
but no last but not least,
instead of exchanging numbers,
this is something barely anybody talks about these days,
exchange social media.
I will make an extra video on that,
but I thought I might drop it here as well
because it's important, because what information
does the girl have if you have a solid,
or not so solid interaction, do you exchange numbers?
Like, it's basically a number, a name,
and maybe this like little avatar of your face,
and that's pretty much all she has.
Like this like just the guy from the street I guess,
the guy from the bar last night.
And you're gonna text her anyway,
like barely anybody is on the phone anymore,
so you're gonna text her anyway so,
if let's say instead of exchanging numbers,
you exchange Snapchat, Instagram, Facebook,
now she has basically like this little picture of you,
she can look into your life.
Now you're not just this like random number,
avatar plus name, now you're like
the guy who has cool travel pictures,
the guy who has cool party pictures,
the guy who has awesome gym pictures,
of him doing cool interesting things
that she didn't even know about you
because you didn't mention it in the initial interaction.
But if you have a good Instagram, a good Facebook profile,
which you should, but again,
more on that in an extra video,
the girl just gets that contact,
and instead of being this like random guy
that might be fun from the bar, or from the street,
you're this like cool guy
who actually has a life to back it up with.
And then you can message her over Facebook, over Instagram,
anyway again, there's no difference between texting,
and texting on a social media platform,
but it is in your advantage
because she can have a better view of your life.
Now, if you have a shitty social media,
then you shouldn't exchange it
because it could be negative as well,
negatively interpreted.
Anyways, those are the tips
on how to get a girl's number very successfully,
thanks so much for watching.
And I have to say,
if you're a little bit too shy, and you're like,
"Okay, getting a girl's number is one thing,
"but how do I even talk to girls?
"I'm too shy and have approach anxiety,"
I have this program that will help you get over shyness,
it helps you get over your own approach anxiety,
over your fear, the program is called Fearless,
you can head over to the website,
it's called CrushingMyFear.com.
There's a bunch of free content on there
that you can just grab, there's little goodies,
those are really high quality videos and other things
that you can grab for free.
And if you then say, "Hey, the program's actually cool,"
you can get the program, or just stick with the free stuff,
it's all over there on the website.
Thanks so much for watching, you're awesome.
(snaps) Peace!

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