The Fab Mom On 2: Coping With Mom Guilt

I CAME BACK TO WORK.
PAT: WELL, IF YOU A WORKING MOM,
MAYBE YOU HAVE DEALT WITH THIS.
YOU GO BACK TO WORK.
YOU WORRY THAT YOU ARE NOT QUITE
THE EMPLOYEE YOU USED TO BE, YOU
ARE NOT QUITE THE MOM YOU THINK
YOU SHOULD BE.
OH, YES.
VERY FAMILIAR.
CBS 2'S JILL JOINS US NOW.
HOW COMMON IS IT FOR MOMS TO
DEAL WITH FILT INTO OH MY
GOODNESS.
THIS CONVERSATION COMES AROUND
AND AROUND.
YES.
THIS AFFECTS ALL OF US
WHETHER YOU ARE STAY AT HEM OR
WORKING.
MY MOM USED TO TELL ME.
TRY TO KEEP THIS AT THE
FOREFRONT OF MY THOUGHTS.
GUILT IS A WASTED EMOTION THANKS
FOR THAT MOM.
BUT WE DEAL WITH IT ONE WAY OR
THE OTHER.
IN FACT, PAT, WE RAN A POLL OPP
OUR CBS LOS ANGELES FACEBOOK
PAGE ASKING ABOUT GUILT.
LOOK AT THIS.
PAT: WOW.
0% OF MOM ARE DEALING WITH
GUILT.
AND JUST 0% OF US RECOGNIZE
WE'RE DOING OUR BEST WHICH I
WISHED THERE WAS BIGGER PEN
SEPTAGE SAYING WE ARE DOING OUR
BEST.
PAT: YES.
THAT IS SOMETHING LEARNED AS
WELL.
I AM DOING THE BEST I CAN.
OK.
FEELING GOOD ABOUT IT.
HOW DO YOU START TO RECK THAT
CYCLE OF GILL, THOUGH?
NUMBER ONE, EASIER SAID THAN
DONE.
WE ARE PUTTING OUT REMINDERS
TODAY.
DO NOT APOLOGIZE FOR
CIRCUMSTANCE OR CHOICES WE WERE
TALKING ABOUT WORKING IN.
IF YOU WERE WORKING TO SUPPORT
YOUR FAMILY, AND THIS IS YOUR
CIRCUMSTANCE OF OUR LIFE.
NEVER APOLOGIZE TO YOUR KIDS OR
FAMILY.
THAT IS THE CIRK OF LIFE.
THEY ANOTHER THING IS TO REALLY
MAKE A CHOICE TO STOP COMPARING
OURSELVES TO OTHER MOMS.
THERE IS THIS THING IN
PSYCHOLOGY CALLED SOCIAL
COMPARISON THEORY THAT MEANS WE
TEND TO SHAPE THE WAY WE THINK
AND FEEL ABOUT OURSELVES WHEN
WE'RE LOOKING AT OTHER PEOPLE.
WELL, WE CAN'T COMPARE BECAUSE
WE ARE NOT THEM.
THEY ARE NOT US.
PAT: THAT IS CORRECT.
THAT IS WORSE THAN REALLY,
TRYING TO BE LOOK THE NEIGHBOR
SITUATION.
BUT IN THE WAYS, THAT COULD
REALLY GO, THAT COULD AFFECT
SOMEONE.
OF COURSE, ESPECIALLY MOTHERS
WHO ARE TRYING TO TAKE CARVE
KIDS.
YOU SUGGEST THAT MOMS GIVE
THEMSELVES EGO BOOSTS EVERY
TIME.
WE LIKE THOSE.
WE LIKE THOSE.
WE HAVE A VIDEO FROM VIEWERS
THAT SHOWS WHAT JILL NEEDS.
AS MOM, I AM REALLY GOOD AT
IMPROVISING, ALSO, I AM AM
PRETTY SURE THAT RIGHT NOW, POT
THE INGREDIENTS FOR THREE SNACKS
AND A TOURNIQUET IN MY HANDBAG.
PAT: THAT WAS A SHARON FROM
ORANGE COUNTY.
BUT THAT IS WHAT SHE DID.
SHE WAS SAYING WHAT SHE IS GOD
AT.
I SAID, I PUT OUT, I DID A CAN
ON THE FACEBOOK PAGE SAYING I
WANT TO KNOW WHAT YOU ARE GOOD
AT AS MOTHER BECAUSE MY
ASSIGNMENT FOR EVERYONE FOR
KEEPING GUILT AWAY IS TO TELL
YOU
YOURSELF THAT YOU ARE GOOD AT.
EACH DAY TO YOUR SELF.
THEN MIRROR BECAUSE IF WE DON'T
REAFFIRM IT WITHIN OURSELVES,
THEN, WE ARE GOING TO LET THOSE
OTHER APPROXIMATELY TY FEELINGS
COME IN.
E RAZZ DESTRUCTIVE.
WE CANNOT ALLOW THAT.
GIVE YOURSELF AN ECO POST A.
PAT: DO WE HAVE TIME FOR STORY?
THANK YOU.
ALL RIGHT.
THANK YOU.
THANK YOU.
I WILL SHARE SOMETHING WITH YOU.
YES.
PAT: MANY YEARS AGO, LIKE
LIGHT-YEAR IS A WAY, WHEN MY
DAUGHTER, I THINK SHE WAS, I
GIVE A PARTY FOR THE REST OF THE
KIDS IN OUR MOMMY'S GROUP.
SO I HAD OUTSIDE, OUTDOOR SPACE.
BROUGHT IN THE FOOD.
AND THE DRINKS AND ALL OF THAT,
BUT IT WAS NOT ENCLOSED BIG
ENOUGH.
THEY WERE RUNNING AROUND AND I
WAS CHASING AFTER HIM.
I THOUGHT IS WAS DOING A GREAT
THING MAKING IT EASY FOR EBB.
THIS WAS NOT AS ENCLOSED AS IT
SHOULD HAVE BEEN.
I FELT BAD ABOUT IT.
THEY DIDN'T.
WE SPENT MORE TIME RUPPING AFTER
THE KIDS TO SEE WHERE THEY WERE
GOING.
NOT GETTING IN THE POOL.
LOOKING BACK NOW, DO YOU
STILL FEEL BAD?
ZI.
I DID AT THE TIME.
DID YOU AT THE TIME.
RIGHT.
IN TEN YEARS YOU WILL LOOK BACK
AND SAY DO I FEEL GUILTY?
PAT, PLEASE.
PLEASE.
YOU ARE THE MASTER.
PLEASE.
I AM SURE.
PAT: YOU ARE TOO SWEET.
ALL RIGHT.
HUGS.
HUG, HUGS.

The Fab Mom On 2: Coping With Mom Guilt

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