How to Serve Your Spouse

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- When I go into a business,
and I'm doing business with a person,
let's just say that I order iced tea at a restaurant,
and I say, "Hey, can I get some more tea?"
and they come and get my glass and get me some more tea
and they bring it back, and I say this,
I'll say, "Thank you very much,"
and they'll go, "No problem."
I hate that.
I don't care if it was a problem.
I'm paying for you to have problems.
(audience laughing)
If you had to go to China and get the tea
and Antarctica to get the ice,
I'm all good with that.
(audience laughing)
As long as you got back, I don't care about your problems.
Not that I don't like you as a human,
but you're serving me!
No problem?
(audience laughing)
Oh, here's the right response: My pleasure.
I tip bigger...
If I get a no problem,
I want my pleasure.
Thank you, thank you so much for getting me the tea.
Well, it was my pleasure.
The best businesses and restaurants
train their people to say, "My pleasure."
You just feel better.
So you go to your spouse and you say,
well, you know, honey, I need this and this and this,
and you're spouse responds like this... (scoffs)
(audience laughing)
Well, Barbara said her husband doesn't need that.
(audience laughing)
Shaming, eye-rolling, body language is rejection.
If you don't serve your spouse with a good attitude,
you're rejecting them.
And so when you come to your spouse
and you tell them what your needs are,
Karen would come to me and she would say,
you know, Karen and I serve each other all day long.
Literally, we serve each other all day long every day.
We've been married for 44 years.
We have a good marriage,
and we serve each other.
That's just what we do.
But the way that Karen responds to me
when I'm asking her to do something,
the way that I respond to her,
we don't do that.
I'm happy.
The number one reason for my life
is to serve Jesus Christ.
The number two reason in my life
is to serve that woman right there.
She's not a burden to me. (audience applauds)
And see, when you roll your eyes and shame
and reject and judge and do all those things,
what you're saying is, you're not that important to me,
I've got something better to do
than to sit here and take care of you.
Really, 'cause when we got married
I thought that's what you wanted to do.
I thought our vows said that we were gonna love
and cherish each other till death parted us.
And now what I hear you saying is I'm a burden
and you think I'm strange.
(audience laughing)
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How to Serve Your Spouse

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