Life Coach Mike Bayer Tells 25-Year-Old Gambling Addict Steps To Take To Change His Life

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We've started talking about what he needs to do
and the first thing we said was
we said number one,
he needs to work on getting a job, right.
He's gotta get up and get out of the house
and have accountability every morning.
Where we would provide some level of coaching
so that you're getting up at a certain time,
you're getting home at a certain time.
Even what you do after you're looking for a job
is looking for a job.
All right, next.
The next phase would be we need to clean up
your environment.
Look at the basement.
I don't think that's an environment
that's gonna help you win, right.
And so it's cleaning your room,
it's doing your own laundry,
it's taking care of yourself,
it's not arguing with your mother,
it's going to the casino and saying,
hey, my name's John,
you probably want me to keep gambling here,
but I'm letting you know I shouldn't gamble here.
So you're gonna turn yourself in to the casino.
And you're gonna give them your ID,
and they're not going to let you gamble there again.
Okay.
(audience applause)
And it seems heavy but this is what we call
surrender to win.
We're talking about several things here.
One is, if you're going to be in that basement room
for a short period of time,
then you need to start living with dignity.
And when we say going to the casino,
and unplugging from the internet is another step,
that's programming yourself for success.
Look, willpower is a myth.
You succeed by programming yourself for success.
It's not willpower, it's that you're programmed for success.
I can cure any addiction.
Just let me parachute you into the Antarctic
and you're cured, right?
'Cause there's no cigarettes,
there's no alcohol, there's no drugs,
there's no gambling, you are cured.
I have controlled your environment.
So let's do the same thing here.
Let's control your environment.
Let's clean it up where it makes it very difficult
for you to do what you do.
And the next phase is what are you saying to yourself.
Because if you're calling yourself a loser
you're going to live like a loser.
If you're saying you're at rock bottom,
there's always a deeper bottom, right?
Always.
Always, so we're trying to raise your bottom.
So you can live the life you're meant to live.
And so what we would work on is what is the story
and messages you're saying to yourself on a daily basis,
so that we can start to elevate your self esteem,
and then once you start making money,
because of your history,
we would take a look at who's managing your money
for a while.
I'd hate for you to end up back in a spot
where you make some money and you're just going
to spend it again.
So we'd figure out who in the family system
is appropriate to take care of the money.
The other thing is you're not allowed to talk
poorly to your mom while
you're living in mom's house, right?
(audience applause)
By the way, that's not who you are.
You're probably not the type of guy
who when you're operating at your best self
is going to be mean towards your mom.
That's not who you are, right?
Correct.
And you need to be willing to hold the bottom line of
if he breaks any of the rules that we've set up,
he's out.
Okay.
Because there has to be some consequences
to his behavior.
Right.

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Life Coach Mike Bayer Tells 25-Year-Old Gambling Addict Steps To Take To Change His Life

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