Today’s Takeaway: Steps To Take If Your Child Was Abused

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Sadly one in four women are the subject
of some type of molestation or abuse
by the time they're 25.
And it leaves scars, scars that need to be dealt with.
And you heard today a lot about listening
and it starts with believing.
My mother takes zero responsibility
for the things that have happened to me.
Savannah was born to a drug mother.
She was taken away when she was two.
Savannah has been raped, beaten, sex trafficked.
This started at age two when she was molested
for the first time in foster care.
When she was 16, that's when I got the call
that she had been picked up for prostitution.
She did not know how to raise somebody like me.
She was angry at the world.
Things were getting worse.
She ran away again, got into the car of a really bad guy
who kidnapped her
and that's how she got into sex trafficking.
I have not seen my mom in almost a year.
I would really love the chance to tell my mom
that she is partially responsible
for the things that happened to me.
I have a lot of issues.
It comes with the territory of being in foster care,
growing up with sexual abuse.
I don't believe that I would have been exposed
to the sex trafficking if my mother would have
let me come home.
If one of your children comes to you
and tells you about this, the first thing you need to do
is hear them, you need to believe them,
you need to sit down with them and talk to them.
That doesn't mean that you don't responsibly
check things out and investigate it.
But don't reject that child
when they come and tell you that.
And if it has happened then you need to let them
see you take action and protect them.
They need to see you step into the gap
and do what's necessary to keep them safe
and keep them sound.
And let them know that this is not their fault.
Children have the unique ability to figure out how
when things go wrong that it's somehow their fault,
that somehow they've done something wrong.
And it's important to let them know
that they're not dirty, they're not shameful,
they've done nothing wrong and that this is not
about them, it's about someone else that's the predator.
Someone else that's sick.
So if this is brought to you,
as awkward as it may be,
as much as you don't want it to be true,
stop what you're doing, get somewhere private,
turn off the television, get other people out of the room,
make eye contact and say,
"Let's talk about what's happened."
And just make them feel safe,
make them feel that it's gonna be okay.
And once you find out what you need to know
then you can take appropriate action.
Most importantly, listen.
Make them feel safe.
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Today’s Takeaway: Steps To Take If Your Child Was Abused

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